Do you watch “Bear Grylls” ?
He is the sensational British ex Special Forces guy that films himself in extreme survival situations & gets himself out alive with very limited resources. My husband and three young boys are riveted by his films, & apart from being quite handy for picking up the odd survival tip in case I am ever stranded in a crocodile infested Mississippi swamp etc I actually picked up a HUGE pearl of wisdom from our mate Bear whilst watching recently….
He said ….( are you ready for this)…he said that “the key” to survival – as taught to him by one of his own trainers… was to avoid the rollercoaster of emotions, avoid extreme highs & lows, to try & control your emotions to a steady place somewhere in the middle as extremes are way to taxing from a survival point of view.
Bear !! Thanks buddy ! I seriously LOVE this one, it is just SOOOOO true. Although we wouldn’t be without some extreme joyful highs & the horrible lows propel us back up into action & give us lessons, his advice for operating on a sustainable day to day life survival point of view is very relevant.
I recently allowed myself to be really negatively emotionally affected by the behaviour of some people around me & seriously, it took me days to recover. It was like a bad emotional hangover that lasted days. I was so annoyed at myself for allowing it to happen because I thought I was more resilient ! But once you go there with those emotions, even though you can mentally rationalize why you have responded this way from a “needs psychology perspective” its really hard to turn off the chemical affect in your body of the hormones that come with a real emotional upset.
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| Happy to be turning 42, bring on 43 ! Taken with our youngest little man Beau. |
So I turned 42 yesterday, & was reflecting on how things do feel easier as I age & really enjoy aging because of the sensibility & emotional fitness we develop as we age. So I thought, what really useful things should I re-focus on for my 43rd year to continue to develop the feeling of “things being easier”…
1. Bear’s advice of avoiding the extreme highs & lows…PLUS the other three that are already on my shower wall:
2. Anthony Robbins advice of “Quality of your life is the quality of your emotions” (don’t go to the rotten ones) .
3. Pat Parellis advice of “always putting the relationship first” before the objective you are trying to achieve (Relationship mastery is #1 for me).
3. Pat Parellis advice of “always putting the relationship first” before the objective you are trying to achieve (Relationship mastery is #1 for me).
4. Linda Parellis advice of trust in fate that everything that happens (good or bad) is perfect & the way it should be (Every cloud has a silver lining).
What do you think about Bear’s words of wisdom on survival tips & do you have any useful “juicy” ones to share, please tell.
xoxox
Kallista
